1. Dr. DePompo

    Is “self-esteem” killing us?

    Therapists who think and work with their clients in terms of “achieving a higher measure of self-esteem” or a higher conditional positive self-image may be misguided.  It is not more realistic and helpful to teach them how to attain self-acceptance (or unconditional positive regard)? For example, a “good person” is one that is...
  2. Dr. DePompo

    How to Quiet Your Inner Mother

    The following is an interview with Dr. Paul DePompo on Mother’s Day. What do you mean by quieting your “inner mother”? As a child we are helpless– the Mother is often the first protector. Her voice was the loudest and it kept us safe – as adults the voice becomes part...
  3. Dr. DePompo

    What to Do When the Love of your Life is Unavailable!

    It’s been hard to find love, but you believe you’ve finally found it. He’s charming, fun, and intelligent. He’s really pursuing you, telling you that you are the only one who “gets” him. Just as you are feeling confident about the relationship and settling in … he suddenly starts becoming...
  4. Dr. DePompo

    5 Relationship Rights you Must Enforce

    When you first met, things were nicely intense and passionate. The two of you had a spark that ignited into a burning flame. Now after he or she knows you “belong” to him or her, it seems like the house that was built is about to burn down. In the...
  5. Dr. DePompo

    Top 4 Mistakes Parents Make at “Bedtime”

    Children do not come with a handbook. Wouldn’t it be great if they did? One of the first pages parents would turn to is how to handle bedtime. It is a night when we are at our most tired and our parenting skills can go out the window as children...
  6. Cassandra Quaglierini

    6 Rules to Keep the Kids Out of Divorce

    Divorce is difficult for all involved especially the children.  With January notoriously being the busiest month for divorce attorneys with divorce filings up by one third the joy of a new year can be plagued by the emotional consequences of this trying time.  For children, this can be a time...
  7. Dr. DePompo

    TOP 5 skills for a successful relationship!

    With the hundreds of websites making it easy to find a date, none of these sites are really telling you how to turn the date into a healthy relationships. This takes skill! People say, “It’s about being selfless” – .. ever try that? … doesn’t go well. People also say,...
  8. Dr. DePompo

    Is it Healthier to Love or Be Loved?

    Many of us frequently think that if we like someone, she or he must love us in return. Dr. Albert Ellis differentiated “loving” from “being-in-love” (in-lovedness or falling-in-love). He had the following to say about these states: “In many aspects loving and being-in-love are almost opposites. Being-in-love is often a...
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