Just like that summer is coming to an end. The fun care free attitude is now being replaced by the anxieties and what if’s of the fast approaching school year. If you were like me as a high schooler, the excitement of the new school year was often over shadowed by self-doubt and worry as to what the school year will bring. Will I get good grades? Who will I hang out with at lunch? Will my friends be in my class? Will I make varsity? Behind these what if’s is often an underlying feeling of self-doubt and questions about your own ability to cope and manage the demands of the upcoming year.
Having gone to University High School, a high school in the shadow of a 4 year University the demands of school work coupled with navigating the ever so sticky high school social landscape was a recipe for high levels of self-doubt and anxiety. This self-doubt often expressed itself in what could be called the “student imposter syndrome.” The “imposter syndrome” is nothing new, it’s the idea that one can look good on “paper” or in this day and age “Instagram” but still suffer from high degrees of self-doubt and anxiety. The inability of one to internalize previous success and pull on your inherent strengths to boost confidence is a culprit behind the student imposter syndrome. Hence, as images and thoughts of the upcoming school year swarm they are often tainted by the failures of times past or imagined failures of what’s to come. This in turn leads to a feeling of “faking” it and high degrees of self-doubt, self-criticism and anxiety. Luckily this school year doesn’t have to be full of self-doubt and worry; instead this chronic questioning of yourself and the future can cease to control you if you change a couple of thinking habits that keep you stuck. Read More
Your talking to you friends, boos, or children. It is a simple fact you are trying to recall and you go blank! “My goodness is this Alzheimer’s? Am I going losing my mind? Though frustrating, often this is a quite normal human experience and we will tell you WHY this is happening and what you can do to improve it!
Why does this happen?
We all have different levels of short and long-term memory and levels of attentiveness. People with diagnosis such as ADHD, Anxiety, or Depression will have a harder time because there system is having to work much harder to do the same job as everyone else. Outside of diagnosable conditions, we can only output in our brains efficiently in an imperfect manner. If this is a pattern it can mean we need food, rest, and quiet-time to reset.
Why do we recall it randomly later?
We are human, yet even computers freeze up. Once we cool down, have a mental break, take the pressure off, our brain is able to reboot and access the data again. It is in your hard drive, just takes the brain energy and focus to retrieve.
And what can we do to better access our info?
First of all:
Don’t Be Hard On Yourself. The more you shoot for ‘perfect recall’ the more stress you will have and the harder it will be to achieve.
You have to Self-Care. Rest, diet, and exercise can help you not to get overloaded and will boost your ability to be sharp and at your best.
Stand Confident in The Face of “Potential” Criticism. If socially you focus more on how you are perceived than focusing out on connecting you can easily get your stress level up and you will surely get the brain block that can make recall a nightmare.
Listen Actively. When taking in information be assertive with it. For example, repeat back in your head what people are saying, make eye-contact, and try not to multi-task when you are trying to retain information.