Could You Have Student Imposter Syndrome?

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Just like that summer is coming to an end. The fun care free attitude is now being replaced by the anxieties and what if’s of the fast approaching school year. If you were like me as a high schooler, the excitement of the new school year was often over shadowed by self-doubt and worry as to what the school year will bring. Will I get good grades? Who will I hang out with at lunch? Will my friends be in my class? Will I make varsity? Behind these what if’s is often an underlying feeling of self-doubt and questions about your own ability to cope and manage the demands of the upcoming year.

Having gone to University High School, a high school in the shadow of a 4 year University the demands of school work coupled with navigating the ever so sticky high school social landscape was a recipe for high levels of self-doubt and anxiety. This self-doubt often expressed itself in what could be called the “student imposter syndrome.” The “imposter syndrome” is nothing new, it’s the idea that one can look good on “paper” or in this day and age “Instagram” but still suffer from high degrees of self-doubt and anxiety. The inability of one to internalize previous success and pull on your inherent strengths to boost confidence is a culprit behind the student imposter syndrome. Hence, as images and thoughts of the upcoming school year swarm they are often tainted by the failures of times past or imagined failures of what’s to come. This in turn leads to a feeling of “faking” it and high degrees of self-doubt, self-criticism and anxiety. Luckily this school year doesn’t have to be full of self-doubt and worry; instead this chronic questioning of yourself and the future can cease to control you if you change a couple of thinking habits that keep you stuck. Read More

Surfing The Sunday Scaries

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The Sunday Scaries often means you work, work work and when Sunday rolls around you get yourself axious about life and the week ahead! You feel out of balance in your life like you may be heading into a crisis. During the week and weekend, there is likely not enough pleasure or sense of connection to yourself or others and yu may not feel to are firm enough on-track with your goals.
The “Scary” is often enhanced by the attitude that it will be too difficult to cope with the demands of the week again without getting, sad, depression, or in a constant state of frustration. This can be avoided by experimenting during the week even id in 5 minute increments looking for ways to increase the little joys and making at least a few minutes to push through things you know you should do but are likely avoiding. Schedule what you need to do for the week but also for the pleasure of the weekend as well. Plan and execute doing good things for yourself without waiting for that ‘feeling’ to be there.
How to deal with
If you are in the Sunday Scaries (because you didn’t listen to me and plan) ask yourself – What would make the best rest of the day today — and Don’t allow excuses (the heart of the Sunday Scaries) and engage in these tasks even for 5 minutes. It takes that long to get into the task and the Scaries will start to subside. Learn from what works, track 3 days in the weekday when you plan and 3 when you don’t see what leads to a better Sunday experience! You can hack the Sunday Ccaries when you learn to balance setting yourself up for the week getting organized but making sure you have a weekend.
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Why Do We ‘Blank Out’ in Conversation?-

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Your talking to you friends, boos, or children. It is a simple fact you are trying to recall and you go blank! “My goodness is this Alzheimer’s? Am I going losing my mind? Though frustrating, often this is a quite normal human experience and we will tell you WHY this is happening and what you can do to improve it!

Why does this happen?
We all have different levels of short and long-term memory and levels of attentiveness. People with diagnosis such as ADHD, Anxiety, or Depression will have a harder time because there system is having to work much harder to do the same job as everyone else. Outside of diagnosable conditions, we can only output in our brains efficiently in an imperfect manner. If this is a pattern it can mean we need food, rest, and quiet-time to reset.

Why do we recall it randomly later?
We are human, yet even computers freeze up. Once we cool down, have a mental break, take the pressure off, our brain is able to reboot and access the data again. It is in your hard drive, just takes the brain energy and focus to retrieve.

And what can we do to better access our info?
First of all:
Don’t Be Hard On Yourself. The more you shoot for ‘perfect recall’ the more stress you will have and the harder it will be to achieve.
You have to Self-Care. Rest, diet, and exercise can help you not to get overloaded and will boost your ability to be sharp and at your best.
Stand Confident in The Face of “Potential” Criticism. If socially you focus more on how you are perceived than focusing out on connecting you can easily get your stress level up and you will surely get the brain block that can make recall a nightmare.
Listen Actively. When taking in information be assertive with it. For example, repeat back in your head what people are saying, make eye-contact, and try not to multi-task when you are trying to retain information.