Healing After Infidelity — Specialized Counseling for Couples

Discovering infidelity is one of the most painful experiences a person can go through. Whether you are the partner who was betrayed or the one who strayed, the road ahead feels overwhelming. At CBTI of SoCal, we provide specialized, evidence-based infidelity counseling to help couples navigate this crisis and decide their path forward.

You Don't Have to Navigate This Alone

Infidelity brings a storm of emotions — shock, anger, grief, shame, confusion, and fear. These are all normal responses to a devastating breach of trust. What matters now is getting the right professional support to help you process what has happened and make thoughtful decisions about your future.

Our Approach to Affair Recovery

At CBTI of SoCal, Misa Butsuhara, LMFT specializes in infidelity recovery using a structured, scientifically-informed protocol designed specifically for couples dealing with betrayal.

Phase 1: Crisis Stabilization

• Creating emotional safety for both partners
• Managing the immediate emotional fallout
• Setting boundaries and expectations
• Addressing urgent decisions

Phase 2: Understanding & Processing

• Understanding the full impact of the affair
• Processing painful emotions in a safe environment
• Exploring the context and contributing factors
• Rebuilding communication

Phase 3: Rebuilding or Deciding

• Rebuilding trust through consistent actions
• Strengthening the relationship foundation
• Developing new patterns of connection and intimacy
• Making informed decisions about the future of the relationship

We Help All Sides of Infidelity

For the Betrayed Partner

If your partner has had an affair, we help you process the shock and grief, understand what happened, and regain your sense of self — whether you ultimately choose to stay or leave the relationship.

For the Unfaithful Partner

If you are the one who had the affair, we provide a non-judgmental space to understand your actions, take accountability, and learn how to rebuild trust through consistent, meaningful change.

For the Other Person

If you have been involved with a married or committed partner, we can help you navigate the complex emotions and decisions you face.

Intensive Couples Retreat Option

For couples who want accelerated progress, our Marriage Repair Retreat provides intensive, focused therapy over multiple days — accomplishing in a weekend what might take months in weekly sessions.

Meet Your Infidelity Recovery Specialist

Misa Butsuhara, LMFT

Misa is the co-author of The Other Woman's Affair, based on her original research on infidelity. She brings both scholarly expertise and compassionate clinical experience to help couples through this challenging time. Available in Newport Beach and via telehealth across California.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can a relationship survive infidelity?

Yes. With the right support, many couples not only survive infidelity but build a stronger relationship than they had before. However, recovery requires commitment, honesty, and professional guidance.

How long does affair recovery take?

Every situation is different. Most couples benefit from several months of structured therapy. Our intensive retreat option can accelerate the process significantly.

Do we both need to attend?

While couples therapy requires both partners, we also offer individual sessions for either partner who needs additional support during the recovery process.

Is telehealth available for infidelity counseling?

Yes. Misa offers infidelity and affair recovery counseling via secure telehealth to clients throughout all of California.

Start Healing Today

Call 800-317-8010 (x2) or contact us online to schedule a confidential consultation.